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R-U-D-E
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WHY THE HELL DO THEY KEEP MONITORING ME! IT'S DEMORALIZING

Posted by R-U-D-E - July 4th, 2018


Why??? Why do my parents have to MONITOR me everytime i do my animation?!!!!

It bugs me and demoralizes me a LOT. Which makes me think that animating at late night is better than others because they're sleeping!

They keep asking "How much percent is your animating progress?" nearly every day!

But they get angry when i tell them what i feel.

 

WHHHY?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I know they have good intention, but they're oblivious to what they're actually doing to me

I would call them "Motivation Destroyer"

 

How do i solve this?


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Sometimes parents can be intrusive. You shall tell them what you feel.

Tell them in a calm manner that they are inhibiting your creative process, and that you prefer to work in private.

not my problem

Tell them you need your space, in a CALM manner.

Blowing up will help no one.

When they get angry, smile and say 'well, you asked for it', then go your way.

Awww, is mommy's widdle baby waby making cartoony toons? So cuuuute *cheek pinch*, he thinks he is an animator, like his spongebob show.

*gigglesnort*

You can't reason with parents, the age gap, and life experience will forever make them tower over you, and look down upon what you do (expectations, responsibility, living under their rule, their domain). Rather they care about what your doing, or your smother is being a helicopter parent, they are going to always keep tabs on what you do, and ruin your "zone" (had the same issue you're having when I used to design blueprints for my architecture class, once my focus was pulled away from my work and force-focused on factor X, I couldn't get back into the mentality needed for creative design). Your best bet is going to always be to do your animating at night, on a laptop, in a control space. The only way you can explore personal freedom without intrusion, is to remove the malefactor. Humor your parents, it's better than getting mouthy or pushy with them, but do your real work at night while they sleep.

Your parents will never care about how "you feel" in terms of motive, focus, or dedication, because so far as they are concerned, they are being "good parents", and that means more to them than "whatever silly little distraction you're occupying yourself with this time". Eventually I learned (through trial, error and self realization) that control spaces are a must, this must not be negotiated: there is no solution otherwise. Later on when I began taking painting classes, I'd stay after at the studio and practice there on my own time, instead of going back home.